You would be forgiven for thinking that the object of your desire has been run over by a bus or dropped his cell phone in the pool when you don’t hear from him after what you thought was a successful date. I mean, let’s face it, you were your charming self, looked like a million bucks and wore that expensive perfume you saved for so long to get. And all the other guys in the room were starring at you. So what’s happened to your man? The one whom you thought would walk you down the aisle?
Men might not come right out and say they aren’t interested in you. After all, if he runs out of options he might just call you for some late night nookie, right? Or he doesn’t want you to think badly of him. He’d prefer you to tell all your girlfriends what a great guy he is. How do you know when he’s not interested and if he genuinely just simply lost his phone with your number on it? Girls get this: if he was interested in you, trust me, you would have heard from him already. If he did lose his phone with your number on it, he would have made a plan to track you down. Where there’s a will, there’s a way! Modern thinkers believe that women shouldn’t hang around waiting for a guy to call them. They suggest you pick up the damn phone and call the guy yourself. Here’s why that doesn’t work:
• Men don’t like to be pressurized into dating. They enjoy being the ones to choose who they date.
• Men are intimidated by women who come on too strong. They’re afraid you will rob them of all their masculinity.
• Men enjoy the chase. Women who make themselves available too easily lose their mystery and attraction.
• While a guy might want to hop into bed with a woman who comes on so strongly, they won’t necessarily want to date you or have a relationship with you. Don’t believe me? Give it a try. Make that call, set up that first date and watch how he tries to get you into his bed.
• When you make yourself too available a guy wonders what you have going on in your life. He wonders if you are desperate and why you aren’t going on other dates. A red flag goes up and he treads with caution.
• A guy is a lot more interested in a woman who isn’t that interested in him! Have you watched a Rom-Com lately? Notice how the girl was never interested in the guy to begin with and how he won her over? Guys love to win women over with their charm. Don’t rob him of that opportunity.
Restrain yourselves, ladies. I know how tempting that may be. But holding back and being reserved will ultimately work in your favor. Just try it. Next time you meet a nice guy, hold back, be a little reserved and watch how he’ll try to win you over.
*Want to know more on how to determine if a guy, you're dating with, is really into you. Read the review I've written for the movie He's Just Not That Into You, on September of last year. Here's the link: http://iamjessiam.posterous.com/?sort=&search=bradleycooper
